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Helping Your Kid Work Through Big Emotions While Managing Your Own

By Emily Mall

Posted on September 11, 2023

Two adults standing with a kid while ink swirls around them
Two adults standing with a kid while ink swirls around them
Two adults standing with a kid while ink swirls around them

Parenting is a beautiful journey filled with moments of joy, love, and growth. However, it also comes with its share of challenges, including helping your child work through their big emotions while managing your own. We'll explore effective strategies to navigate these emotional waves together, creating a supportive and empathetic environment for both you and your child.

Understanding Big Emotions

  1. Emotions Are Natural: Begin by acknowledging that emotions, even intense ones, are a natural part of being human. Emotions serve as signals, helping us understand our needs and respond to situations.

  2. Childhood Emotions: Recognize that children may experience emotions more intensely and have limited tools to cope with them. Their brains are still developing, and they rely on you for guidance.

Managing Your Own Emotions

  1. Self-Awareness: Take time to understand and manage your own emotions. Recognize that your feelings can influence your child's emotions and reactions.

  2. Self-Care: Prioritize self-care to reduce stress and emotional reactivity. This can include exercise, meditation, journaling, or seeking support from friends or professionals.

  3. Pause and Reflect: When you feel overwhelmed, take a step back before reacting. Deep breaths and a moment of reflection can help you respond more calmly.

Helping Your Child Navigate Emotions

  1. Acknowledge your child's feelings and let them know you understand. Validation doesn't mean agreement but shows that you respect their emotions.

  2. Active Listening: Practice active listening by giving your full attention when your child talks about their emotions. This helps them feel heard and supported.

  3. Name Emotions: Help your child put their feelings into words. Naming emotions can reduce their intensity and improve emotional intelligence.

  4. Problem-Solving: Guide your child through problem-solving when appropriate. Encourage them to brainstorm solutions to their concerns.

Coping Strategies for Both You and Your Child

  1. Breathing Exercises: Teach simple breathing exercises to both calm your child and yourself during emotional moments.

  2. Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness techniques to stay present and centered. You can incorporate mindfulness exercises into your daily routine.

  3. Journaling: Encourage your child to keep a journal to express their feelings. Journaling can also be a helpful tool for you to process your own emotions.

Setting Healthy Boundaries

  1. Consistent Rules: Maintain consistent rules and boundaries to provide a sense of security and predictability for your child.

  2. Modeling Behavior: Be a role model by demonstrating healthy ways to cope with emotions and conflict resolution.

  3. Seeking Support: Don't hesitate to seek support from a therapist or counselor if you or your child's emotions become overwhelming or persistent.


    Navigating big emotions, both your child's and your own, is a shared journey filled with opportunities for growth, connection, and understanding. By cultivating empathy, practicing self-awareness, and learning coping strategies together, you can create a safe and supportive environment for your child to express their emotions and develop emotional resilience. Remember that parenting is not about perfection but about guiding your child through life's ups and downs with love, empathy, and patience.

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