Episode 4
What Are Your Family Values?
Aired On December 1, 2023
A strong value system supports a family in making aligned decisions as individuals and as a unit. Everyone knows about the Golden Rule, but what other values are there? We deep dive into all things values-related.
Having and stating family values creates a context so that it is easier for everyone to know their role, how to make decisions, and to understand where they fit into the family system. Values are a belief that makes you act a certain way. If we figure out how we want to behave in general, that understanding can be applied to specific situations.
In this episode, we offer examples of values in action and the processes of identifying them. As differentiators, value systems will vary by family and that is something to be celebrated!
Before the episode, we each wrote down what we believe to be our family’s values. We gained so much insight by comparing their lists. Sometimes putting a name to what we think is implicit is really helpful for getting on the same page.
Starting from scratch can feel overwhelming to identify family values. Sometimes naming the values as they emerge organically from one’s actions is a solid place to start, identifying the behavior as experienced real time. One benchmark for knowing when to have your family’s values identified could be by the time your child starts asking why, around 3 or 4 years old, and absolutely by the time they become Pivotals.
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