Episode 7
Boundaries, Part 2
Aired On December 15, 2023
We dig into how parents can co-create healthy boundaries with and for their children so that kids learn to take responsibility for their lives and choices.
In the previous episode, Boundaries, Part 1, we defined boundaries, how to have them, and what they can look like. In this episode we hone in on boundaries with kids.
Boundaries are so important in all people because they instill behaviors of self control, responsibility, freedom, and love. Without good boundaries rooted in childhood, issues with impulse control, addiction, and irresponsibility have been shown to arise later in life.
Boundaries are a learned skill, and a child’s first experience of them is within family. We're reminding you that children essentially don’t know what they’re doing, which is why they have parents to love them, provide structure, and guide them to maturity.
How a child handles their own boundaries directly reflects a parent’s relationship to their own boundaries. Dan shares four ways that people learn boundaries: modeling, coaching, directing, and mentoring. I then layers on top the ten core tenants of Boundaries with Kids by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. Robert Townsend.
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